đ Hi there,
Imagine youâre running a marathon.
As you go on, you notice mile markers.
These markers let you know how far youâve gone.
Good, right?
But what if I told you the organizers made the markers completely random?
So there you are. Running. Working hard. Putting one foot in front of the otherâŚ
Only to have no idea how far youâve come (or how much is left.)
Our lives are exactly the same.
We create âmile markersâ on how weâre âsupposedâ to be coming along:
Getting married. Establishing ourselves as professionals. Buying a house. Kids + pets.
The result?
You feel behind or compare yourself to others.. Like everyone else has cracked some adulting codeâŚexcept you.
(Iâm a few decades past 20 and still âfiguringâ things out. Talk about a loooooong marathon đ)
Then, you go on social and see someone else getting engaged. Stings a little, right?
Today I wanted to give you a little reminder:
The mile markers you have in your headâŚare 100% made up.
Iâve been in the same boat with Practice of Life, thinking:
âHey, our epic team worked so hard to put this together. Shouldnât, we, uhâŚbe further along!?â
So next time you feel behindâŚremember youâre in charge.
You can change the markers. Or better yet, ditch them all together. And live your life.
âşď¸ Thinking about you.
Itâs mid-November...which means cold weather + dark days can make things harder.
Right now, so many things are out of your control: like global events, family dynamics, or a health diagnosis.
But as Ryan Holiday said: âThe world seems to be going crazy... and it's trying to take you with it. But here's the thing: You can't let it.â
Instead of âbigâ expectationsâŚIâm focused on loving my special people and finding joy in little moments. Just a few of these means less stress and more resilience. We could all use more of that, right?
Iâd love to know where you are finding tiny pockets of joy. I've got you, and weâve got one another. I mean it.
đResource you might (really) love
Check out this quick reel with Joe Hudson about the link between emotions and meaning.
đ¤Quote to make you think
âItâs alarming to face the prospect that you might never truly feel as though you know what youâre doing, in work, marriage, parenting, or anything else.
But itâs liberating, too, because it removes feeling self-conscious about your performance in those domains: if the feeling of total authority is never going to arrive, you might as well not wait any longer to give such activities your allâto put bold plans into practice, to stop erring on the side of caution.
âOliver Burkemen, Four Thousand Weeks
In your corner,
